• MandelbuttMutt@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    4 days ago

    My husband will walk into my office and just stand there until I respond. He’s trying not to break my chain of thought by not speaking. In his own way, he’s being very sweet. It’s well-intentioned but it breaks my chain of thought immediately anyway.

    He thinks that I am bringing my task to a good stopping point before I respond to his presence, but I’m actually waging an internal war with myself: don’t rip his face off, I know I have been working a grand total of 15 minutes and he had every opportunity the rest of the freaking day to say whatever inane thing he is about to say that could have been a text, I should have shut the door if I didn’t want him wandering in, breathe breathe breathe … “yes, sweetie? What do you need?”

  • HollowNaught@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    4 days ago

    If there’s 1 thing worse than being interrupted for a stupid reason, it’s being interrupted for no reason

    • thickertoofan@lemm.eeEnglish
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      4 days ago

      came here just to talk about backtracking i feel a lot of anxiety and i literally cannot calm my mind, it starts racing if i feel like im forgetting something. it’s kinda related to ocd-ish behaviour, compulsive back tracking, i start looking at my browser history or scrounge for stuff which can make me remember what did i forget. I hate it.

      Also, one more issue being that i always look for the next thing to do, i literally cannot stop thinking about what do i have to do next or what am i excited for, its like i can never live in the present moment, it sucks so hard. fml

      • MandelbuttMutt@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        4 days ago

        I got a therapist for this same type of thing - it really does suck. I felt like I was going to crawl out of my skin all the time. The right therapist can be so helpful. My mind still races, but I automatically use the SOBER technique now without thinking through the acronym first. Or I name the issue “this is avoidant - what am I avoiding?” Or I ask “how can I reframe this?” To stay in the moment, I use a sensory exercise. Seek a therapist who will TEACH, not just sympathize.

  • 🦄🦄🦄@feddit.orgEnglish
    2·
    6 days ago

    Exactly why I love remiote work that much. Sitting at home in a room that is exactly the temperture and light level that I like, wearing noise cancelling headphones w/o music is pure bliss.

    I mean, not that I am getting any work done either but in theory this is much more efficient :D

    • PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      1·
      6 days ago

      helps for complexity in large tasks. Not really with small tasks (since you spend more time making and reading notes than doing the work). Programming is an example where notes can’t save me, I just need to hyperfocus or I won’t get anything done.

  • Novamdomum@fedia.io
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    6 days ago

    Trello 100% fixed that for me. Also, as someone who NEEDS my little dopamine reward whenever I do a task I found a little trick. If you put the 🎉 (party horn emoji) in the title of a list it blows a bunch of confetti over the screen whenever you drag a task into that list 😁

    • CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      1·
      6 days ago

      Ah, Trello.

      I can use that to hyper-focus on my tasks. But before I do that, I have to list, prioritize, and organize my tasks. But before that, I should create a layout for my tasks. What statuses should I have. Should I use deadlines?

      What was I doing again?

      • Donkter@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        6 days ago

        The problem with every organization app.

        “It worked for me! Now all my projects are organized and it’s so much easier than when I was keeping everything in my head… After I was able to sit down and focus for a day to import all my data and organize it and set up the program to tailor to my application and now that I go back to it to reorganize my new info every week…”