• themeatbridge@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    15 days ago

    Any advice that starts with “just…” is automatically invalid.

    … Make a list and do one at a time.
    … Set a reminder.
    … Install some time-tracking productivity software on your phone or computer.
    … Go for a walk and clear your head.
    … Keep a jug of water nearby.

    • EmptySlime@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      5·
      15 days ago

      The one that got me when I was still undiagnosed still infuriates me to this day.

      You just need to apply yourself more.

      I tried that and went from a 90 average slacking off to a 92 burning myself out “applying myself” in place of any activity that brought me joy.

      • Shou@lemmy.worldEnglish
        0·
        15 days ago

        Yeah. Same here. Even my test results showed signs of overcompensation. I got most stuff correct in time, but my impulsivity (and gaming addiction) shined through. It was stressful as hell and I tried my best. Then took the test again on meds and 1) it wasn’t stressful, I was zen! 2) I was far less impulsive. xD

      • CancerMancer@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        0·
        15 days ago

        I didn’t understand for so long how people could just sit down and do shit, while I hated doing things like dishes so much it made me irrationally angry.

        Just knowing I have a problem helped. With some consideration and research I got ideas on how to deal with some of my problems. Example: hate washing dishes? Reduce the number of dishes you have at home and replace as many as possible with dishwasher-safe alternatives (assuming you have a dishwasher). Then they can’t pile up so bad and it becomes less intimidating to take on.

        What didn’t help: suggestions from people without ADHD. “Just do it”, “schedule it”, “task tracker”, etc… yeah fuck that.

        • Struggle with eating fruit/veg instead of shit snacks? Buy pre-cut stuff.
        • Don’t know what to cook? Use a recipe randomizer each week and just buy what you need, or just do 5 pages out of a cookbook or something, idk. Hell for a while I just made the same meals every week, no planning necessary.
        • Hate folding clothes? Just don’t. Reduce the amount of clothing you have, get bins for each type of clothing, separate and pile that shit.
        • Mac@mander.xyzEnglish
          1·
          11 days ago

          “Hate doing [task]? Just dont”

          That’s my favorite one. :)